This list entails suggestions for some practical tools all men can apply in their day-to-day lives to foster equality in their relationships with women, and to contribute to a culture where women feel less burdened, unsafe, and disrespected.
Part of living in a patriarchal society is that men are not socialized to think about how their habits and attitudes are harmful to women. This list is meant to push men to think more consciously and personally about the direct and indirect effects they have on women, and to think more about how they can contribute to feminism through their lived, everyday practices.
Cockney: One of the most celebrated English dialects, a variety spoken by working class east Londoners – famous for its playful vocabulary as much as for the way it sounds – is likely to disappear within a generation, according to one sociolinguist. His studies suggest it is being replaced byMulticultural London English. In an age where travel and migration are much easier, we need to be understood by a broader range of people, and tend to temper the most distinctive features of our accents.
I’m not a “true Cockney” (I wasn’t born within the sound of the Bow Bells) but I’m from an area where it’s spoken, and my dad still uses the rhyming slang. I’d be quite sad to see the dialect die out, but the comment about needing to be understood makes sense - it can be impossible to follow if you’re not familiar with it. I had to temper my accent when I moved to Northern England, and then once again when I moved to Ireland. Which is why, apparently, I sound like an Australian.
“‘Why do men feel threatened by women?’ I asked a male friend of mine. So this male friend of mine, who does by the way exist, conveniently entered into the following dialogue. ‘I mean,’ I said, ‘men are bigger, most of the time, they can run faster, strangle better, and they have on the average a lot more money and power.’ ‘They’re afraid women will laugh at them,’ he said. ‘Undercut their world view.’ Then I asked some women students in a quickie poetry seminar I was giving, ‘Why do women feel threatened by men?’ ‘They’re afraid of being killed,’ they said.”—Margaret Atwood, Writing the Male Character, via The Belle Jar: Elliot Rodger And Men Who Hate Women